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A Reflection on Therapy, From a Therapist
Therapy is often misunderstood as “just talking.” This reflective piece offers a therapist’s perspective on the depth, care, and intention behind the work.
Juandri Buitendag
Jan 194 min read


When the New Year Feels Heavy: Mental Health and January Pressure
The New Year can be a difficult time for many. This article explores the psychological pressure of “new year, new me” and how loneliness, anxiety and depression can be amplified in January.
Juandri Buitendag
Jan 83 min read


ADHD and Rest: Why Traditional Relaxation Doesn’t Work, and What Actually Helps
Discover why rest looks different for ADHD adults and how active rest supports real recovery, emotional regulation, and burnout prevention.
Juandri Buitendag
Dec 12, 20253 min read


Is It Anxiety or Just Stress? How to Tell the Difference
We often say “I have anxiety” when we’re simply stressed or overwhelmed. This piece explores where stress ends and anxiety begins - and why knowing the difference helps us respond more compassionately to ourselves.
Juandri Buitendag
Dec 5, 20254 min read


Online Therapy vs In-Person: Which Is Right for You?
Therapy is, at its heart, a relationship. Whether it happens on a screen or in a room, the essence remains the same: connection, presence, and the courage to be seen.
Juandri Buitendag
Oct 24, 20253 min read


An Open Letter from Your Therapist: A Heartfelt Message to My Clients
An honest letter from me, to you.
Juandri Buitendag
Jun 5, 20253 min read


Our Attachment Over Time.
Attachment styles play a powerful role in how we form and maintain relationships. This article explores secure, anxious, avoidant, and anxious-avoidant attachment styles, how they develop, and how awareness and therapy can help create healthier, more secure connections.

JuandriB
Oct 20, 20207 min read


Overestimating Risk and Underestimating Resources. This is Anxiety.
Feeling anxious without knowing why is common. This article explains how anxiety is triggered by automatic thoughts, attention and avoidance, and offers practical CBT-based strategies to help manage anxiety.

JuandriB
Sep 30, 20205 min read


Living, Navigating and Surviving in a VUCA World.
We are living in a VUCA world defined by volatility, uncertainty, complexity and ambiguity. This article explores how these conditions affect mental health, trauma and coping, and offers practical psychological strategies to adapt and grow during uncertain times.

JuandriB
Sep 7, 20207 min read


Understanding Yourself. Schema Theory Explained...(Kind of).
Schema therapy helps explain how early unmet emotional needs create patterns that influence thoughts, feelings and behaviour. This article breaks down schema theory in a clear, non-clinical way, exploring schemas, modes, triggers and healthier coping strategies.

JuandriB
Aug 19, 20205 min read


Sticking it to the Stigma
I recently read an article in an advice column to readers writing in with psychological questions. As you can imagine, it’s the type of column we all click on to read, its catchy, it pulls us in with attention grabbing headlines on questions we may ask ourselves all the time. With this particular article, a woman wrote in asking how to help her partner through his depression and how to cope with the difficulties that come up in the relationship. The psychologist responded wit

JuandriB
Feb 19, 20204 min read


"The end of therapy is not the end of therapy" by Anonymous Client
Today my therapist broke up with me. There was no ‘it’s not you, it’s me’ chat, because it was clear ‘it’s me’. I was ready for it. And it felt really good. Not because I didn’t want her in my life. If it was socially appropriate to have refused to leave the therapy room, I would have insisted my therapist drag me out on the street by my feet. ‘You want me to leave? Make me!’ This shit is addictive, more so than the drinking, the drugs and meaningless sex used to mask my rea

JuandriB
Jan 16, 20206 min read


What is the number one thing I get asked as a psychologist?
Many people wonder who psychologists see and whether their problems are “serious enough.” This article explores why therapy is for normal people with normal problems, all seeking happiness and support.

JuandriB
Jan 23, 20195 min read

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