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It can be anything you choose it to be.

There are so many misconceptions around people starting therapy. I've heard people say things like "it's not bad enough", "I don't have trauma", "I don't want to talk about childhood", "There's nothing wrong with me".

But the reality is that therapy can be an incredibly helpful tool for people for different difficulties ranging from anxiety to trauma to confusion to relationship difficulties to a general need for support.

If you have an inclination that you might need to speak with someone, do it. Therapy is a perfectly normal, valuable and helpful tool.

The Buddhist Approach

One of my favourite Buddhist teachings focuses on the idea that we cannot control the world around us, but we can control how we react to it. Learning to accept and cope with things you can’t control may be difficult, but can also be one of the most powerful mindfulness strategies you can learn and practice.

Forgive yourself

I'm sure there is a lot more to forgive, but today, here is a reminder to forgive at least these 5 things.

Slow Down

Realising that sometimes, our problems and distress can in the most simplest form, be overcome through the simplicity of slowing down. Hidden in the frenzy of a busy mind, beneath the vicissitudes of thought, lies our innate peaceful mind, if only we give ourselves enough space to find it.

Night time routines

Evening routines are vital for us to wind down and relax to get that great night’s sleep that we need. It has been found to be important for productivity, motivation and wellbeing.

As a psychologist...

Instead of being used to give advice, psychotherapy should be a tool that guides people in making their own decisions.

Important to consider in therapy

A solid therapeutic relationship is vital to clients' growth, more so than the therapeutic approach of the psychologist. A healthy therapeutic relationship includes shared decision-making. Mutual engagement in "the work" of the treatment. The ability to talk about the "here-and-now" aspects of the relationship with each other. The freedom to share any negative emotional responses with each other.

Healthier communication

My go to useful principles for couples can be find from the Gottman Institute.

Shop for the right one

I always suggest to people and new clients to "shop" for the right psychologist/therapist.

It is a vulnerable process to seek help and it is so important to fine the right person for your therapy journey.

You have the right to know what type of work they have done before, what they specialise in and what they feel they could offer you on your healing journey.

For those individuals with marginalised identities it is especially important to seek out someone who has done identity work before. So ASK.

Never feel that you have to stay with the same therapist/psychologist if you are not happy there, you can choose to leave and find someone else. This is YOUR space.

YOU have the power. Remember that it is YOUR journey, YOUR healing and YOUR needs that come first.

7 Day Challenge

You have time...

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